This is such a common mistake on the part of many in the church that I feel it necessary to re-post Tony Reinke's article "Speaking the Truth in Love." It seems that what happens (quite unintentionally I'm sure) is that everyone wants the "love" part so much that inadvertently truth gets hijacked! This must not be. Read on and see how Tony describes this phrase in the context of Ephesians:
For much of my Christian life I have had a one-sided view of “speaking the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15). I assumed that the verse meant only that when hard news or rebuke needed to be brought, it should be done with tenderness and sensitivity. I was wrong.
For much of my Christian life I have had a one-sided view of “speaking the truth in love” (Ephesians 4:15). I assumed that the verse meant only that when hard news or rebuke needed to be brought, it should be done with tenderness and sensitivity. I was wrong.
Not totally wrong. I
understood correctly the verb and the love: that hard news and rebuke should
always be brought with appropriate sobriety, humility, and never with arrogance
and harshness.
But I neglected to focus
on the other part of Paul’s phrase: the noun and “the truth.” The context of
the passage helps to explain Paul’s meaning.
In his sermon, “How the Saints Minister to the Body” (1992), Pastor John explains the earlier
context:
First, the equippers of
the saints in verse 11 are all truth agents:
apostles
(the authoritative, foundational witnesses to the truth),
the
prophets (the charismatic speakers of truth that apply it with supernaturally
guided pointedness),
the
evangelists (who do the work of evangelism with the truth of the gospel in
regions where apostles have planted the church),
the
pastors and teachers (who take the truth and use it to feed and protect the
flock of God).
Every one of these offices
centers on the truth of God and Christ and the gospel. These people are truth
agents.
Second, verse 13 says that
the goal of building up the body of Christ is to attain to the unity of the
faith and the knowledge of the Son of God. So the building begins with
equippers who are all agents of truth, and the aim of the building is unified
knowledge, that is, unified grasp of truth.
Third, we have seen that
verse 14 shows Paul’s great concern: As we grow into corporate Christlikeness,
we are not to be babes who are blown around by every wind of doctrine. The
issue is stability in true doctrine, so that we will not be deceived by false doctrine.
Thus, our call to speak
the truth in love to one another is gospel-oriented.
Today we gather together
as Christians to worship our God. If we are led by faithful preachers, that is
a gift from God equips us to speak truth. As we gather, we find opportunities
to speak the truth of the gospel to one another. This is how we serve and
protect one another doctrinally. This is how we build up one another and build
unity in our churches. This is how God gives grace to others through us
(Ephesians 4:29).
At its core, we speak the
truth in love when we care enough to speak the gospel into the lives of those
around us. This is God’s everyday calling for every Christian, including
Sundays.